Thursday, April 4, 2013

a rambling babbling post about babies, oh and some clothes too

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Oh you know, just some more large pictures that will boogle your eye balls.

You guys. Hubs got me the most beautiful skirt I've ever seen in my entire life, and this blue tee to go with it. This post would have been the most wonderful and glorious in the whole world, but my outfit is not yet complete. And it has to be perfect before I show you all. 

So for now, here's another comfy post.








shirt-target // necklace-charlotte ruse // belt-forever 21 // pants- gap // shoes-zumiez 

Is it just me, or is everyone and their mother (literally) having a baby these days? I swear every day people are announcing their exciting news with adorable Pinterest ideas. And I'm over here like, "I want a cat. Or two...(cough) ten?" Noo, I'm not a crazy cat lady. Yet. Kiiiiding, kind of. 

Anyways, the point is, we haven't been married long and society is telling us to get pregnant before my eggs dry up or something? Which let's be honest, won't happen for another 20 years. I got a lot of good miles left in this tank. So there's no rush! But still. Society pressures people to have kids before they're ready allll the time. And I just won't fall into that trap. 

I think when the time's right. It'll be right! And it will all magically happen and be perfect and I'll be so unbelievably happy. But the key, is when I'm ready. And when Josh is ready. And when God feels the time is right. 

The point of this post with a completely random opening? Stop asking people when they are going to start a family (not you my lovely readers, just people in general). Just because we've been married for 8 months doesn't mean we are sinning by waiting. Because it's between us. Not us, and when the judgmental people of society think is time. 

I know life is about having a family. Teaching your children right from wrong, getting crackers shoved into the crevices of your belongings, having juice boxes explode in the car, snotty noses, and food crusted smiles. Aaaaand wiping away little tears, and rocking a newborn to sleep at night, and kissing and squeezing even after they say you're embarrassing them. And trust me, I'm all about that. I have a bajillion nieces and nephews that I love sooo much. I could spend every day all day with them and only love them more. 

I know, when the time is right, I'll be the best mom I can be. (Which will be a pretty awesome one if I might add.)

The thing is, when someone asked when we were going to start a family, and that we've kinda been married for a while (less than a year is a while now?) I actually felt guilty for not having that desire when clearly everyone else is a fountain of fertility these days. So I prayed. And you know what God told me? "Your children need you to wait longer because they're not ready and they know you aren't either. But when the time is right, and you're both ready, you'll know. And it'll happen." And I said, hallelujah  God doesn't think I'm selfish for not wanting children yet. In fact, he expects it.

So people I won't judge you for having a baby so soon, so don't judge me for waiting. 

And goodness, please, society, don't ask when someone is going to start a family (heaven forbid they crave children and have infertility) because it's just not your business. And if a child is not in the womb, it's because it's not supposed to be there yet. It's really that simple. 


xo,




28 comments:

  1. Love this post! You deserve to be happy newlyweds for as long as you want without pressure! I grew up Mormon, still love the Gospel but am not super active and every time I run into old friends or new members, I feel an extreme amount of pressure, guilt and judgement for being almost 24 & not married or not even in a relationship! Thank you for sharing!!

    P.S.-I felt so much pressure I started writing a blog for single women :) Check it out

    http://emmaxxjo.blogspot.com/

    Thank you!

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    1. Thanks Emily! It's definitely a topic I feel really strongly about haha. And don't you even worry, I have plenty friends who are your age or older that aren't married and I say power to you! Nothing wrong with waiting for the right person as long as it takes! I'm sorry about feeling judged, some people just can't see past their own views. And hey, there aren't enough blogs out there for single ladies! I think blogging is a way for people to share their world with others, no matter what it looks like.
      xo,
      Lauren

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  2. its funny because i am at the opposite side of the spectrum (not waiting at all) and people act like i just escaped out of a loony bin. the truth is- no matter what you do, people will have their opinions and probably judge you. but it doesn't matter. what matters is what is right.

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    1. So true Kerri! It is entirely up to when the right time is. Your daughter just couldn't wait any longer to grace you with her presence :)

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  3. I just love you! So much power in your writing. And it's always good to hear a good pep talk from you on this subject :)

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    1. I love you too Missy! And thank you :)) compliments about my writing means so much to me (english major thing I guess). Can't wait to see you in like 2 weeks!
      xo

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  4. AND congrats for hitting 300 followers! Yeah girl!

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  5. Awesome outfit - I really need to get some white pants. =) You're gorgeous!!
    Visiting from the Aloha Friday blog hop. =)
    ~Callie
    www.creationsbycallie.com

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    1. Thank you Callie! And girl, I am alllll about the white jeans! You should totally get some :)
      xo

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  6. What a great post! I think what you said about society pressuring couples to have kids too early is entirely true. That may be why a lot of parents want to be friends with their kids nowadays, not parents, who knows. All I know is that when the time is right, God will make it happen :)

    Cait
    petitechronicles.blogspot.com

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  7. This is my first visite here, I love the way you write! I have 4 children. All I know is that I'm happy with them, if I had followed all the advice people telling me, like, finish your education, buy a house and many more, I think today would only have one child. In my case, I'm happy of the result, I have 4 beautiful children, a dog, three cats and most importantly a house full of life!
    I am a new follower from the Aloha Friday Blog Hop! Thanks for co-hosting this party! I love your Blog! I'm following you via GFC and bloglovin
    I hope that you will visite my blog and if you like my blog, you will considere to follow me back!
    Marisa from
    http://passionetcouture.blogspot.ca/

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    1. The timing is just different for everyone! I'm so glad you chose what was right for you, and not what everyone else thought was the right decision.
      xo

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  8. Hey gorgeous, just stopping by to show some love to my fellow co-host in the Aloha Friday Blog Hop. We are so happy to have you this month. :-)

    xoxo Pakize

    Madame Keke

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  9. I'm following GFC from Friend Connect Blog Hop. please return the favor and follow me back at Evoluchun's Miscellaneous

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  10. Super cute outfit!And blog ^^ Dropping by from the Friday Flash Blog Hop.

    New follower with GFC
    GabsG(BeautyMadness)
    http://beautymadn3ss.blogspot.com/

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  11. As I was looking at your photos, I found myself hoping your husband was your photographer... it just seemed romantic to me. Your expression is so lovely. And the outfit looks great.

    It can be painful to encounter societal judment. Hooray to you for addressing it! Lynaea @ EveryDayBloom.com

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    1. Thank you so much, that was so sweet :) my hubs is starting to get pretty good at the whole photography thing haha I love it!

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  12. i'm glad to see somebody else speaking out about this! we've been married for 2 years now (we're also lds) and i feel like in the last month alone 5 or so people have asked me that same question. we're not trying to escape the experience of being parents by any means, it's just not the right timing. when it comes to when and how we build our family, it's entirely between us and the Lord. there are definitely some nosy people out there but i have to keep reminding myself they mean no harm. :)

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    1. Beautifully said Kair, I completely agree!
      xo

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  13. Lauren, I'm so glad to see that you have such a good mindset. People were the exact opposite for Garrett and I. We decided it was time to start our family and when we would tell people we were going to be trying, they all told us to wait until I was in my mid-to late twenties. It got really discouraging after just a short while and it made me begin to doubt whether we should really start our family. They all told us to do all the things we want to before having kids. But as I thought about things more and pondered on it, I realized that all I've ever wanted is to be a mom and being in the military living in Japan, I get to see a ton of cool things people don't normally get to see anyway. And I can always see these amazing things in the eternities. That made me feel better and Garrett and I finally just started telling people that it was our life and that we could make that decision. I also have a friend here who has been married for three years without kids and she openly admits that she's not ready. The Lord will not punish you for waiting until you feel ready. It's so good that you have this viewpoint. Many women don't and it's one of the hardest struggles they deal with.

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    1. Thanks Tara! And you're so right, the timing is unique for everyone. You can't clump everyone into one category and say they need to have children at this age or this stage of your marriage. It is ultimately up yo you and your spouse. Way to go for doing what you felt was right. I feel like when somone feels like the time is right, there's an angel who's ready to come down.

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  14. Finally linking up with my Friday Flash Blog community. Thanks for linking up and sharing in the fun! Have a terrific week and see you on Friday.

    Jennifer
    www.TheJennyEvolution.com

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  15. As always- super adorable! Thanks for linking up on the photo friday blog hop!

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  16. Hey, I am your latest GFC follower from peacoat and plaids blog hop!

    Please return the favour if you have the time :)

    http://www.curvyguruceri.com/

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  17. Hey Lauren!
    You have a new LDS follower from Sweden! I am from Utah (but I married a Swede) and have dreamed of having kids since I was little, and i felt ready when we got married last June.
    What was hard for me.. Is in Sweden if you work for 9 months, you can have a year paid maternity leave.. Which is awesome right?? Well as an immigrant and not knowing Swedish, it was suuuper hard to get a job, and my husband didn't feel comfortable having kids until I had worked for a little bit. I finally got a job, and it finally feels right and I am glad we waited until we were both ready! In the Mormon culture this is a tough topic, and EVERYONE will always have their opinions. Having kids is kinda a big deal! Good job sticking with what you feel is right, even when society says differently! :)
    You are more than welcome to follow my blog if you wish! :)

    Mollie
    Lifeofmollierose.blogspot.com

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